No matter what you’re doing at a given time, there are two skills that you are also developing, or not:
- The ability to allocate your effort & attention to achieve your goals.
- The ability to pick the right goals.
Ignore the former and you will tend to act ineffectively. All you’ll get for your effort & attention is a whole lot of frustration. Ignore the latter and you will tend toward unadmirable traits & behaviors — you’ll be an asshole.
Your goals are the outlines of the person you intend to be; your agility in the pursuit of those goals is the coloring and the shading that fleshes him out.
Same same but different is this poster by Joey Roth: